bigfatscience:

transmasculineselfielove:

bigfatscience:

So your surgeon was transphobic and fat phobic. Double yuck. I’m sorry you were subjected to that. It is so much harder to cope with bigotry when you are vulnerable… ya know, like when you are about to undergo surgery.

Your body is just fine the size that it is. You deserve to be at peace, and I hope you get there. 

oh my god fuck that doctor.  Anon didn’t say if it was the surgeon for sure.  If it was, there are a lot of places you can review surgeons who do top surgery and it would be good to share this information about him.

Or if it’s another doctor, and he works with trans stuff specifically, there’s places to review him too.

http://www.topsurgery.net/  This was the most useful site for me back when I got top surgery

https://www.radremedy.org/  this one’s like a yelp for trans healthcare

https://www.realself.com/ftm-chest-masculinization-surgery this site reviews cosmetic surgeons, which top surgery falls under.  Uses cissexist language.

http://www.realpatientratings.com/doctors - this is like yelp for just any doctor

I mean, like, let’s be real: any aspect of transitioning doesn’t fix everything for us.  And for a lot of guys, there can be a feeling of disappointment right after top surgery, when people still misgender us, and we still feel dysphoria, and we’re still depressed.  But for those of us who need top surgery, it’s such a huge relief to be in a body that feels more like our own.  And in the long run, our dysphoria tends to decrease a lot, and most trans guys report that their depression decreases.

Cis doctors are so focused on managing our expectations, they sometimes seem to be trying to convince us not to get top surgery.  

But they still think weight loss is some kind of cure-all.

And I could go on for a while about the fatphobia in the ftm community that makes it harder for fat guys to be happy with their top surgery, so there’s so many of us who do think we’ll be happier and less dysphoric if we make ourselves smaller and “fit.”  But doctors never manage expectations for that.  

Reblogging for the Anon asking about weight loss before top surgery. 

I cannot honestly think of a worse recommendation. Basically everyone who loses weight regains the weight they have lost, which would likely compromise the outcomes of the surgery. Weight stability prior to surgery would be a much more realistic goal.

For the anon, I can relate. I had my consultation not too long ago and the majority of the time spent and conversation was about how weight loss would better my life as a whole, rather than how this surgery could also better my life as a whole. It was a shitty feeling. Slowing trying to process it and make decisions of my own that will be best for me. Just here to say (unfortunately) you’re not alone in that experience. Hit my PM if you want someone to talk more about this.